Take the step backward

Howdy. Here's a quote from Dogen Zenji, the founder of Soto Zen Buddhism, on zazen (the practice of sitting in meditation): "Put aside the intellectual practice of investigating words and chasing phrases and learn to take the backward step that turns the light and shines it inward." This is good advice. Instead of spending our energy trying to analyze and argue about what is right and wrong...simply spend some time investigating your breath and your mind.
If you have never sat in meditation, now is a perfect time to try. Simply sit upright in your chair, on the floor, wherever. Lengthen the spine (with a firm back and neck) and have a soft front (belly,face,etc.). Close the eyes if you like and begin to follow your breath. See the breath move into the body as the belly softens and expands. See the breath leaving the body as the belly draws toward the spine. This is the beginning of shining the light (your intention, attention and energy) inwards. Set a timer for a short period so you don't worry about looking at the clock (how long have I been sitting here?) and just keep bringing the mind back to the breath. This is a simple yet powerful meditation technique.
If you are having difficulties with someone (or everyone) then taking some time to reflect will pay great dividends. Try this Loving Kindness meditation instead of following the breath. (You can repeat the words out loud or silently or both):
"May I be filled with loving kindness/May I be well/May I be peaceful and at ease/May I be happy". Keep repeating the phrases as you feel what it would be like to be filled with an unconditional loving kindness for Everyone...what it would feel like to be well..to be peaceful and at ease..to be happy. Do this for yourself first. When you are ready you can expand it to "May he/she/they be filled with loving kindness".
We must start with ourselves first. It may seem selfish but we can't share what we don't possess.
From "A Path with Heart" by Jack Kornfield: "The unawakened mind tends to make war against the way things are. Genuine spiritual practice requires us to learn how to stop the war. This happens not by force of will but organically, through understanding and gradual training. When we let go of our battles and open our hearts to things as they are, then we come to rest in the present moment. Only in this moment can we discover that which is timeless. This is the beginning and end of spiritual practice. As we stop the war, each of us will face something we have been running from: Our feelings of loneliness, unworthiness, our boredom, our shame, our unfulfilled desires. We must face these parts of ourselves as well. Wise understanding sees and accepts life as a whole. We allow ourselves to contain all things, light and dark, and we come to a sense of peace. Not a peace of denial but from accepting everything as it is. Compassion and greatness of heart arise when we stop the war. The purpose of a spiritual discipline and choosing a path with heart is to discover peace and to stop the war in and around us."
Take the step backward.